Sex WAS rude, now it's REAL

If you know someone in need of understanding, if you know the person and that for which they are seeking, then you know that the only thing you need is the right guide, materials and resources to start this process of learning.

Sex WAS rude, now it’s REAL is the right guide to help you to assess the situation, assign and choose the right activities to finally start talking openly about: Personal Space / Anatomy, what the person’s private parts are and what they are for / Sexual Attraction, erections, female sexual arousal, masturbation / Love and Relationships and much, much more!

Sex WAS rude, now it's REAL, is a comprehensive guide to understanding Sexuality for Neurodivergents.

It can be adjusted to their needs and not every activity may need to be completed and the learning process can be as flexible as is required.

Personal Space, Anatomy, Sexual Attraction and Relationships & Emotions, explain how to talk about this subject in a natural and realistic way, giving structure to what can be complex and abstract concepts.

The book uses Personal-Eyes Stories, comics and games to support the individual's learning process and ensure they are are at the centre of all the activities.

They also make the process of learning fun and enjoyable, which makes it adjustable to any age and needs. 

Are the main concepts that will be repeated through all the activities.

They link the entire process of learning, to help make wiser decisions in relation to sexuality and to ensure the individual and others remain safe.


The need and right to understand ones own sexuality exists for everybody but sadly Neurodivergents often have their needs and rights shut down by society.

Sex WAS rude, now it's REAL is the guide that will make that conversation easy and enjoyable. 

Created from entirely original materials: Personal-Eyes Stories and hand drawn illustrations and graphics.

Complete with thorough guidance throughout for the educator to provide a clear and consistent learning method about sexuality and relationships to people with Autism, in order to help make sense of certain social interactions, what happens to our bodies as we grow and much more....!

Here's what our customers say

[...] a great resource for individuals with Autism who desire the skills to develop meaningful and lasting relationships. Practical advice is provided to make social interaction more predictable and to decode social ‘rules’, with pictures and games throughout to reinforce the lessons.

- Ron Sandison, founder of Spectrum Inclusion, author of ‘A Parent’s Guide to Autism‘ and ‘Thought, Choice, Action’

Sex WAS rude, now it’s REAL is a great resource that is truly needed and a considerate practice-based approach grounded in direct experiences of working with people with Autism in this area. Brilliant!

- Dr. Claire Bates, founder of The Supported Loving - a national network dedicated to sharing good practice around relationships, sexuality and disability.

[...] For many, talking about puberty and sex is uncomfortable or embarrassing, however this guide is the complete opposite. It's bright and colourful and I was drawn to it immediately. I wish I had been given this book when I was younger, it would have helped me to understand myself, my body and my feelings.

- Vitoria Ellen @actuallyaspling - Autistic blogger, researcher and speaker.

[...] I am an autistic adult, I never received Sex Ed and I struggle understanding my own emotions during the cycle. While reading the part about Female Puberty on your book, I love how you have described the phases of the cycle and changing energy levels like the seasons of the year. I absolutely love the image that's created in my mind. Reminds me to be gentle with myself, just as I am with nature! I am going to try my best to track my cycles too, I don't 'log' my moods enough and I think it would really help me to understand myself and feel more prepared to be nice with myself. Thanks for the great advice! Loving this book!

-Anonymous - @autism_and_anxiety - #Acturallyautistic

[...] The book Sex was rude, now it's real covers essential topics about sexuality and relationships, with autistic people in mind. It's quite extensive, full of visual aids and exercises. The text grasped my attention; my adolescent self would have liked to learn this way. There is an updated version coming up whose purpose is to clarify the asexual and gender spectrum diversity. It looks promising, and I can't wait to read it. As a whole, this book has a pivotal role in such a specific topic. That is why I would recommend this book as a tool for teaching sexuality to autistic adolescents."

-Anonymous - @Autiblog - #Acturallyautistic

[...] This book really is a unique masterpiece. I work with younger adults with Autism, among other additional needs. Relationships and sex can be hard enough to navigate, you could really do with some kind of a guide...and here is that guide! - visual, informative and so easy to navigate without the need to cringe at what can be a bit of a taboo subject!

[...] My son has Dyslexia and does get uncomfortable when I talk puberty to him, no matter how nonchalant I try to be about it - and I get it, anything like that from your mum can be cringe...anyway, he's not a great reader and definitely a visual learner like me so here is a book I can leave for him to have a flick through in his own time, knowing he'll get the full facts but in a very accessible form. Really I Can Not praise this book enough!!! Buy it, it's a great investment into your children's safe sexual journey.

- Liz Rhodes - Professional working with Autistic People.

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